I really am not sure if the answer I got the other day was the answer I was looking for. In fact, I am not sure I was looking forward to any answer. I am not sure that I was suppose to get an answer. I was suppose to step up and point out a wrong in the most loving and understanding way possible… but
When you see a friend having coffee multiple times at a coffee shop with someone other than his wife, and realize that you have to say something – it is never easy.
When you set up a meeting and prepare all week for it only to see them again in the coffee shop the day before – it is never easy.
When you finally meet face-to-face to talk through what you have seen – it is never easy.
When you start a conversation with a friend that you think is going to be very difficult – only to find out it is extremely difficult – it is never easy.
When both of us start out the conversation saying “I wanted to talk to you…” – it is never easy.
When you hear your friend say that he has filed for divorce – it is never easy.
When you hear about the problems that are actually not entirely my friend’s part, but my other friend’s issues (his wife) – it is never easy.
When you hear about life in his household for the past 1.5 years – it is never easy.
When you think about two young women (their daughters) and their tender and fragile hearts – it is never easy.
When our open conversation that afternoon leads to additional conversations between my two friends – conversations that are honest and raw – it is never easy.
Sorry about the lack of details, I know that these are just the highlights. Sometimes I hate being in the right/wrong place at the right/wrong time. Sometimes I would prefer to ignore issues like this and back away rather than asking the difficult question, “Why?”
I sought out good great guidance that helped me through this conversation and the emails that followed. I needed it – and God knew that. He also knows what they need – and they need your prayers.
Please pray for my friends because this is not easy.