Okay here is a new one for me. I was criticized for being too positive. Now I heard of someone saying you are to negative. You bring everyone down, but being too positive? It was even work related; it was said by someone close to me.
Is that right??? I was kind of taken aback. I wasn’t sure what to say.
Should I say, “Thanks?” (No, that would be condescending…)
Should I say, “That is the first time I ever heard anyone complain that another person is too positive.” (again condescending???)
Should I say, “Are you serious?” (probably should say this and then add why would you say that.)
Instead I just sat there for a minute. And then I started to do what I do best sometimes – I tried to please the other person. I said that I do get upset, but I don’t let it rule my life. I even get down from time to time. Then I started to go deeper… I started to list all of the times that I was not positive recently. I started to look for ways to fit in with this person. In hind sight, it was a totally weird conversation.
Then I realized if I try to show how “normal” I am by being negative, then I am heading the wrong direction. I need to stick with the positive. I do try to live my life in a way that is positive. If something happens, I don’t dwell on it for long. If I am overly positive – so be it. I would rather be that than the opposite.