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What to do when a Christian friend wrongs you…

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I have a friend who has basically told me to get lost.  Don’t call me.  Don’t email.  I am not interested in….we were friends at one time, or so I thought.  I cannot help but feel I have offended him, but he will not even talk about it.  With that said, I searched for an answer, and just about everything I found pointed me to Matthew 18.

To be honest, I am still at a loss…I really don’t have a clue what to do, or how to do it.  I must trust in the Lord to do what is right.  If that means letting this friendship go…then so be it…but is that biblical????

This is really hard on me right now.  So, with that said, I plan  to read the following verses each day and some more, and then pray about it.

“If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over. But if he will not listen, take one or two others along so that every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses” (Matthew 18:15-19).

First, approach your friend confidentially to provide an opportunity for your friend to admit to wrongdoing and to offer an apology. If that happens, then the encounter was truly a success. If not, then it is time to get some spiritually mature partners to accompany you in approaching your friend for a second time. Be sure you take each step in order. It is unbiblical to recruit the help of outsiders before you have tried to reconcile on your own.

Remember, as long as you do what is right in the sight of God and handle yourself appropriately with honor then you are blameless in the conflict. However, if you allow a root of bitterness to take hold, fault will be found in yourself as well as your friend. The goal should always be restoration and healing approached with sincerity and love. If your friend behaves self-righteously and proudly and will not admit to his or her fault then at least you have tried to work things out according to biblical guidelines. It is your friend who will have to answer to God for being disobedient and self-righteous.


Author: just-another-minute

Just a guy getting through life, wondering what is going on in the world, but willing to share a few glimps of myself to you.

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