Based on my prayers from this morning, this piece that I wrote a while ago came back to mind. I wrote to a friend of mine as it related to growing in our faith… just something to help move them along in life and the blessing offered by Christ.
The reason that I am putting this out there, as it relates to my previous post about someone doing you wrong – I had to look at myself first. I had to look at what I was lacking that was preventing me from moving forward and away from the issue with my friend? The result was that there are more than a few things – but first to mind is my prayer life needs to improve, and more importantly I need to get back into a men’s group.
Why a small men’s group? Well, in my mind everyone needs three different people in their lives. 1) Someone who is more mature in their faith, 2) someone who is at roughly the same point in their faith, and 3) someone who is not as far along in their faith. Men’s groups, if they are the structured right (at least for me) do that.
In other words, if all I have in my life are #1s and #3s, I will constantly struggle. The #1s are always further along than I am in my faith, and there will be times when I will feel like I am failing in some way because I compare myself to him/her. Sure they will be able to help me and mentor me. That is part of their role in my life. But if that is the only person I associate with, I will questions why can’t I be where they are. Why can’t I be right there in terms of my faith walk. Keep in mind that is just not a fair comparison. Everyone progresses at a different pace. The world didn’t just go from being non-Christian to Christian overnight.
In fact, take a look at this website. This site shows that even after we are Christians, there are a lot more steps to go. It doesn’t end at the point of being born again. You continue on. I continue on. http://www.angelfire.com/bc/normanhousechurch/EngleScale.htm
I think about it like this – if I am playing a sport – there are going to be a lot of people who are better than me, a lot that are about the same as me, and a lot that are a little worse than me. I have my coaches and star players (the #1s), my other team members at my level (the #2s), and then some who are not as good as me – the JV player (the #3s).
- My coaches and star players are there to push me and challenge me. They teach me and offer advice. They are there to mentor me. They are better than me, and they are someone I look up to and aspire to learn more from.
- My fellow players are the ones that I can go to and talk openly to without feeling like I am messing up all the time. I can say, “Hey! How did you do that?” “Did you get that?” “What did he just say?” “I just don’t get it.” And by talking opening with those fellow players you help each other out. You walk through the problem together. You start to realize that others are feeling the same way, or are struggling just like you. Sure we turn to our coaches and star players for help, but there are times when we need to turn to this group as well. We mentor each other.
- With regard to those that are not as good as you – the JV player. You are basically their #1. You are their coach or star player. You are now the one that they are looking up to and seeking advice from. You are the one that they are trying to learn from. You are the varsity player and they are the JV player. You are basically mentoring them.
Lately I realized that I am missing some of these people in my life. Prayers has brought that to the forefront. I personally feel that I really need these individuals in my life. Right now I am missing the #1s in my life, with only a few #2s that I feel comfortable with. That was not the case a couple of years ago. Maybe that is why I am floundering. And, since I am floundering, I am not much use to those who are looking up to me for guidance. Then you throw in the frustration factor and life has taken some very wild swings.
I hope all of this makes sense… I will probably reread this and say – “what was I thinking… “